Lately I've been wondering if dabbling in this industry has done irreversible damage to my perspective on sex and love.

Been having reoccurring fights with my girlfriend and most of it is down to how boring the sex is. We're both very much in love with each other but she just isn't sexually charged up enough.

For her, sex is something she gives me instead of something we experience together.

The thing is, I didn't realise the sex was boring or lacked passion until I started punting.

I've now reached a point where I look at the bill after a night out and wonder if it was worth it.

It's also becoming expensive to have a girlfriend, side chick and punt. I have to cut out at least 1, ideally 2.

I actually don't want to be the guy that needs to find sexual satisfaction outside of his home because his future wife isn't enough.

Anyway rant over.

Sorry bud. But that is the risk.

I love my wife - but the sex life is somewhere between boring and non-existent. She does it because I want it...and then it's usually a rushed quicky..

I started punting before I got married - from the time I was in my late teens...so having "unrestricted" sex on tap became normal and the expectation.

I'm now 41, been married for 12 years with kids and a dog - only lasted 2 years into my marriage before I went back to punting.
Still hate myself for doing this to my wife (hence my username)...but I feel like i signed up for more than I'm getting when we got married.

Ya...I'm the guy that finds sexual satisfaction out of the marriage...I'm sure other punters will tell you something similar.

You greedy MF, girlfriend and side chick.... ok im jealous.

Yes punting does have mental consequences, same as drug addiction. You will be looking for new ways to reach the level of excitement. Punting for me is not only the deed, but starts at the selection process, that first call, walking into the unknown space....sometimes known if a regular.

Any scared they might give their partner/spouse a disease?

On 2026-08-05 11:03:08 bastard said:
Sorry bud. But that is the risk.

I love my wife - but the sex life is somewhere between boring and non-existent. She does it because I want it...and then it's usually a rushed quicky..

This is my life right now. Can't remember the last time the sex wasn't an afterthought or rushed. It's usually only happening after a night out, rushed morning sex or makeup sex after a fight.

Meanwhile, with the side chick, we can barely keep our hands off each other. But I don't love her......how does that work......I wish I did, life would simpler.

Where are yall finding the side chicks that's my question on a serious note, after work I barely got energy or time for that

But would love to give it a try

This is actually something I hear about non stop. And from a woman's point of view I can honestly say that for most of my life until I hit 30 basically I thought sex was over rated and didnt really get what all the hype was about.

It took a very unexpected encounter, with a woman actually, to wake me up and understand that sex can be epic.

Unfortunately woman have been told since we were young that sex is something that men want and we have to give, and I think that in itself sometimes limits our enjoyment without even knowing it.

My 2 cents, open communication about sex but in a light and fun way, try find out what she may actually have fantasies about and indulge them. It may unlock that part of her and drastically improve your sex life.

Xxx