Yes I know that asking "is marriage worth it" on a website whose user-base is largely married men engaged in extra-marital dalliances is a bit like walking into an all-you-can-eat meat buffet and asking patrons how they feel about veganism. But that doesn't mean the insights/answers should automatically be discredited.

I entered this industry in 2018 about a year after my long term relationship came to and end. We parted amicably so there was no bad blood between us. I'm currently still single and sampling the fruits of this industry guilt free. I'm also still enjoying it a lot after all these years and don't see myself quitting any time soon.

But the idea of marriage still pops into my head every so often and I wonder if that's something worth pursuing. I know people who are happily married, and happily divorced and each of those parties extol the virtues of their respective relationship states.

But I'm thinking I could get some different perspectives on this forum, from both punters and WG (I know many who are married and engaged in this industry).

I'm not asking because I want to justify my current lifestyle, I'm more just curious what users on this particular site would have to say, good or bad.

Marriage is just a social construct.

What you're really asking is whether finding and settling down with someone you have chemistry with is worth it?

The question answers itself.

Anyone on here saying they are voluntarily single and punting *regularly* is coping incredibly hard.

Marriage is a social, legal, and often religious union between two people that establishes a recognized relationship with rights and responsibilities.
At its core, marriage usually involves:
Commitment -- A lifelong promise (in many traditions) to support and remain faithful to one another.
Legal recognition -- The state recognizes the relationship, giving rights related to property, inheritance, medical decisions, and children. foundation -- It often forms the basis for building a family and raising children.
Emotional partnership -- Companionship, love, and mutual support.

On the other hand ...,.

_*Intelligent Answers*_

_*Wife*_
_Tell me who is STUPID ? You or Me?"_
_*Husband (Calmly)*, "Everyone knows that, you are so intelligent, you will never marry a STUPID person."_
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_*What a decent way to Reply!*_
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_*An Economist beautifully explained two reasons for having 2 Wives*_
_A- Monopoly should be broken._
_B- Competition improves the quality of service._
_If u have 1 wife, She fights with u!_
_If u have 2 wives, They will fight for you!!_
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_*Secret formula for Married Couples.*_
_"Love One Another"_
_And if it doesn't work, bring the last word in the middle.!!_
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_*Wife to her Accountant Husband*_
_What is Inflation?_
_*Husband*: Earlier you were 36-24-36._
_But now you are
48-40-48._
_Though you have everything bigger than before, your value has become less than before._
_This is INFLATION_
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_*Economics is not that difficult if we have the right examples*_
_*Interviewer*: What is Recession?_
_*Candidate*: When "Wine & Women" get replaced by "Water & Wife", that critical phase of life is called Recession!!_
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_*Accountancy Fact*_
_What is the difference between Liability & Asset?
_A drunken Friend is a liability._
_But,_
_A drunken Girlfriend is an Asset._
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_*Wonders before and after Marriage*_
_When you are in love,_
_Wonders happen._
_But once you get married,_
_You wonder, what happened.
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_*Philosophy of Marriage*_
_At the beginning, every wife treats her husband as GOD.._
_Later, somehow don't know why.._
_alphabets get reversed_

On 2026-02-15 15:16:36 boggle1 said:
Yes I know that asking "is marriage worth it" on a website whose user-base is largely married men engaged in extra-marital dalliances is a bit like walking into an all-you-can-eat meat buffet and asking patrons how they feel about veganism. But that doesn't mean the insights/answers should automatically be discredited.

I entered this industry in 2018 about a year after my long term relationship came to and end. We parted amicably so there was no bad blood between us. I'm currently still single and sampling the fruits of this industry guilt free. I'm also still enjoying it a lot after all these years and don't see myself quitting any time soon.

But the idea of marriage still pops into my head every so often and I wonder if that's something worth pursuing. I know people who are happily married, and happily divorced and each of those parties extol the virtues of their respective relationship states.

But I'm thinking I could get some different perspectives on this forum, from both punters and WG (I know many who are married and engaged in this industry).

I'm not asking because I want to justify my current lifestyle, I'm more just curious what users on this particular site would have to say, good or bad.

I see you and I raise the question, are humans supposed to be monogamous?

Marriage is totally worth it. In Europe, you feel it during the holidays when you are single. That's the reason a lot of people commit suicide and during the holidays, it gets lonely. I know of a wg married for 20 years this year who lost her hubby last year. He was her everything but now gone in a heart beat. She can't bring herself to see anyone anytime soon. Poor child.

For me...

The problem is that if one is "broken " to think companionship of any sort, even call it marriage shall "fix" one, fill in the cracks, is the issue.

Looking to be completed / understood.
Looking for a "solution".

The mirroring of self in various ways in the other.
Influenced by upbringing, culture and traditions, societal parameters,

..and of late the ever spreading pandemic of socials media duping people into false aspirations of success be it materialistically, socially, professionally and personally.

Virtual vs Reality....as if being human perfectly imperfect is some sort of plague, embarrassment, failure.


That companionship between two people is an "institution" bfr any formalities, papers , customs and traditions, and IS with RESPONSIBILITIES , integrity and honour toward the relationship formed ...before labeling it "marraige".



Monogamy. I do believe in Monogamy. But that is me.

Do I judge those that don't. Not at all, but would love to hear why others think a sole mate, even a soul mate cannot be possible.

To know oneself always but always leads to better relations in all aspects.

To live with oneself can be a challenge. Why would living with another be easier?

Marraige is not Scapegoating. ...and marrying because of...mmmm.

RB.

On 2026-02-16 08:13:32 Russian Bridgitte said:

Monogamy. I do believe in Monogamy ... but would love to hear why others think a sole mate, even a soul mate cannot be possible.

Romantic monogamy or sexual monogamy?

Something I'm still open to influence on ...

My current views, romantic monogamy ... maybe over an extended period, even a lifetime if there is a deeper soul entanglement.

Sexual monogamy ... much harder. Have punted now for a few years, I've yet to find one person that complements my sexual desires completely. But maybe across 3 or so ...

Question you find a soul mate, some one you just connect with on a deeper level, but in bed its kinda vanilla. You try to put your evil aside, god you even go to church to rid yourself of your demons, but it never leaves. So you give in to them, and its not so bad. You even feel whole/ complete/ normal ... but you could never expect your soul mate to do the things you do.

Let me make it more personal RB. You fall in love with someone, everything is perfect. But he can only cut through anal. RB doesn't do anal. Should he expect her to do such to try to keep some peace in that part of their relationship, or should he never cut again, or should they agree that he can do it with someone else within boundaries that they both agree on.

I'm reminded of the late Farrokh Bulsara (Freddy Mercury of Queen). He was deeply in love with his wife, she was his soul mate, best friend. But he was gay. They tried to make it work, but she could not overcome the lack of sexual monogamy. So she dumped him, and sent him into a spiral which led to the break up of one of the greatest bands, and ultimately his death. With the influence she wielded over him in the early days, one wonders if she could of helped him to navigate the path of sex with men, in a safe manner with boundaries that protected them both. And maybe we'd still have one of the greatest bands today. Or even just a legendary soul who walked the impossible during his time.

My J_J


"....Let me make it more personal RB. You fall in love with someone, everything is perfect. But he can only cut through anal. RB doesn't do anal. Should he expect her to do such to try to keep some peace in that part of their relationship, or should he never cut again, or should they agree that he can do it with someone else within boundaries that they both agree on."


If anal meant so much to him...I have a feeling i would have known that before falling madly deeply in love with him. ...and believing a healthy sex life is important...where is the perfection?

My forthrightness knows not to sit well with many.

But my forthrightness has blessed me with people that make my cup runneth over.


I am selfish that way.....just makes life less complicated and more "real"....and out of respect for the other, allows them to choose their "perfect" too.

I think a few men here can vouch for that. Ever ever honoured to be propositioned.

But..

I Just say it as is and I stay away.






And now to read again and address other things u have mentioned that do pull me into an awesome conversation and philosophising!


RB.

Sweet and short you can not eat kfc every day you going to get tired of that chicken. Masala or not