Emotional immaturity

And

Personal experience

And

Being impressionable



Can make taboo topics like politics and religion a " No no" when it comes to discussions.

I like ALL heavy topics and have no issue discussing any nor get riled or upset and should I sense a tension in my purplelander"lover"...if such a discussion is on the go.....to remind him with my feminine ways why he came to share of his time with me.

It is sad when another is so deeply entrenched in beliefs radical but, when such a,radical person crosses my path ( not practical in an hour booked or even longer = waste ofcourse ofsexy time )...to hold a debate, is a go to for me, never allowing that simmering anger or frustration in the other to pour over.

Sharing viewpoints without being defensive can lead to calmer thoughts and understanding.


In this space?

It is not about me and have had many a radical client expressing serious hardcore beliefs .

Have i stopped taking their appointments?
No.
Have we stopped having those heavy discussions?
No.
Has there been a change?

A resounding YES.

In what way?
Greater patience and desire to discuss topics that used to be underlined with "hatred" and considered taboo.



RB.

Unfortunately that's just how white people are, no matter how nice they try to be feeling superior is just a default setting to them. They use the K word in private settings, I've been the only Black Cricket player in the 1st team and white ppl would casually throw the word around, someone who I thought was my friend let it slip oneday when he was giving me a lift etc, I've never spoken to him again. I'm sure the guy that started this thread is Indian, Indian men are obsessed with whiteness and white women. I personally don't feel sorry for black guys that visit white SPs and get treated a certain way, because why are you visiting a white girl ?

Even cocaine is called " white girl" that's all I need to know to stay away.

I love it when they catch feelings

Here's a truth.

On us arriving in SA local whites didn't like us because we came from the Eastern Block and were known as the "rooi gevaar" and the blacks didn't like us because we are "white ".

A fucked up society is what we walked into and that fucked up attitude still remains among blacks and whites .....thank the people voted into government by the people who claim to believe in a rainbow nation.

That is why conversation is important.


RB.

On 2026-03-17 12:49:35 depends69 said:
You guys are the best! The advice and some DMs have been filled with honesty, hard truths, and much needed humour.

Thanks everyone


I actually reached out to her this morning telling her how our chat made me feel. She was extremely apologetic, but we left it at that. No blame or issues or anything. Just a mature chat.

I don't think I will be seeing her again though.

Do what's right for you. I personally wouldn't see her again. I can't be around people who I feel uncomfortable with. Especially with regulars, you start building a connection which is not just physical and if something is off, it kills the whole vibe, and why would you pay to be around that kind of energy when you have so many choices.

On 2026-03-19 11:35:25 Griffindude said:
Huh, WTF? Go fuck someone instead of worrying about me.

On 2026-03-18 07:32:07 DevenM said: On 2026-03-18 06:33:00 Griffindude said: It is this type of insecure bullshit that fucks up nations. Either the guy needs to man up properly or he is trying to start an attention seeking thread by race baiting. Either way, what is he butt hurt about? Fuck all. It's not like he was going to marry the WG. He was NOT seeking advice. I fucking guarantee it. So no, I will not give him or anyone else like this a break. What is this, faking cry on my shoulder time? Se poes with that.

On 2026-03-17 15:38:35 Harmony Hands said: On 2026-03-17 15:05:05 Griffindude said: To the OP. Man up, grow a pair and stop being a fucking pussy. You sound like a whiny little bitch. FFS who the fuck gives a shit what she said.



Settle down brother!

Why so angry?

Did someone hurt you, or is this just what happens when you realise you have nothing real to offer?

The energy you putting into tearing users down online really says everything about what's going on in your offline life.

It's fascinating that this is how you choose to spend your time on this platform.

Hope you things getting better for you.

Hahahha im sure that mustve hit a nerve. There u had no one to help u with a comeback. Al u could come up with was "go fuck someone". Hahahaha