Hi everyone. I'd really appreciate some genuine advice and ask that there be no judgment.

I'm quite nervous and scared and I get very anxious when it comes to approaching or meeting women. I've never booked before, so the whole process feels a bit intimidating. It's also been almost a year since I last had sex, so I'm feeling pretty low on confidence.

I have a couple of questions as well. Would most ladies mind if I'm not circumcised? Also, if I end up finishing quite quickly because it's been a while and I'm very nervous, is that generally something most ladies are understanding about? I know this might sound a bit silly, but a lot of the ladies I've seen are honestly way out of my league, which probably adds to my nerves.'m just hoping to find someone who's friendly, patient, and understanding with a genuine first-timer.

If anyone can recommend a friendly, patient, and understanding Black or coloured BBW/thick lady in or around Randburg/Ferndale, I'd really appreciate it. Someone who is welcoming and good with first-timers would be ideal.

Thanks in advance, and please, gents, no judgment. I'm just trying to build up the confidence to take this step.

If you ever come Pretoria side, please pop in for a nice spoil ;) xxx

First things first, don't overthink this.

In the purple world there's no such thing as out of your league. Out of your budget maybe, but never out of your league. As long as you're courteous and friendly, it's all good.

Also, if your username is anything to go by, search the forum and profiles for 420 friendly ladies.

A few puffs before you even go will settle the nerves enough anyway.

Make sure to do your homework and read reviews etc. That's probably the most important part. Even reach out to some of the punters that have reviewed for more info.

Create a standard text template you can copy and paste and send WhatsApps to those ladies you fancy and you can gauge by their replies which you automatically feel more comfortable with or not.

And then make the booking. If you're genuinely worried about being too quick just ask the ladies if they offer 2 rounds. Quick bj to cum, some massage/play time to reset and then you'll perform much better in round 2. If your reload time is an issue then book 90 minutes or you'll just add to your stress.

Or...

If you've got the cash, perhaps book a sensual massage or two as your first bookings and not a full house session. That way you'll feel less pressure and get some confidence in making the FH bookings?

Either way, good luck!!

No worries man. Honestly easiest way to get your socks rocked, you've already done most of the hard work making your money.

So this is a suggested process.

1. THE SEARCH

Other gents can recommend BBW ladies. Or you can plow through the profiles, I think its part of the fun going through profiles and reviews. You can also use the search the advanced profile search and select "build". Shortlist the girls who interest you.

2. THE QUERY

Reach out to the girls, whatsapp if you need to. (Don't use your real number, get a punting sim - search the forum for how to get one). You can set up a separate whatsapp/business with an alias. Never use your real details.

Then the query, keep it simple. "Hey there, I'd like to know about your rates and services". Most ladies will appreciate you not trying to chit chat. We all know what we are here for.

3. THE BOOKING

Select a lady, confirm address and time for booking and then make your way there. Get cash, maybe just enough for your booking this first time, or more if you want to tip. Arrive. Let the lady know it's your first time, most SPs are amazing when they know this.

Don't be afraid to cum early. It happens to the best of us, I usually (jokingly) blame her. But it's not unusual for the first round to be slippery.

I'll echo the above advice to start with a sensual/happy-ending massage if your confidence is still low.

And I also recommend starting with short sessions if available (30 min), so it's easier for both you and the provider to "power through" if there's any awkwardness. If the provider is good and on form, then a 30 minute session can feel like a 60 minute session, for the intensity and amount of chemistry and acrobatics you can experience.

On being uncircumcised: I am uncircumcised and with about 40 providers I have been to, not one has given any impression that it could be an issue. Also, if you are clean, considerate, respect her boundaries and time (and never. ever. haggle!), almost any provider will want you to keep coming back, no matter how you look.

The ladies here are experienced and very patient. All you have to do is be show up on time, pay as required - before or after, polite, well mannered and respectful and they will do the rest. Treat them with respect and it will be "heaven on earth" for you.