After bedding well over 100 women in total, mostly thanks to ESA. I have meditated on, and come to a conclusion, on a matter that seems to quietly make or break shags for me - possibly for you too.

The realisation started in a session that had all the right ingredients:

1. She. Clean.
2. Spectacular body.
3. Large shapely tits.
4. Me - balls full.

As we started, something immediately felt off. There was a friction; an unpleasantry that I couldn't name. So try as I might, scorchingly sexy as she was, I couldn't get into it.

I lukewarmly emptied the balls once, paid from my "30 minute" pocket and left.

Unsatisfied and now firmly in my head, I unpacked the session and juxtaposed it with a mindblowing session I'd had a week or so before that. A passionate fuck with a lady that was physically a bit less of an appeal for my personal tastes.

But the difference between the two sessions was immediately obvious.

The big tit lass was dominant; she made orders, changed positions without warning, attempted to use me and to dictate proceedings. The problem? As a decidedly dominant guy, I spent more of the session trying to win the power dynamic.

In contrast, the passionate lass was anything but dominant. She acquiesced. Let me have my way with her. She seemingly loved being used by me.

Since then, I've compared other moments both good and bad. Where the inputs were about right, a submissive woman was what made the session great. Other guys I've spoken to who preferred a dominant girl admitted to being submissive or of having the flexibility to swing either way.

Being intentional about this has made an enormous difference in the quality of my experiences and I believe it would do the same for you too.